There comes a time in all of our lives that we have to let go and say good bye to someone. Sometimes it's a decision we make, other times it may be God who decides. In the past I found myself searching for the reason behind these goodbyes, after all they (whoever "they" may be) say everything happens for a reason, right? It wasn't until recently that I discovered letting go is often one of the hardest battles you will fight within your own self. I started allowing other people's opinions of me, change who I am. I was turning into a person, that not only did I not know, but I didn't like! When I came to that realization, I knew it was time to let go.
Maya Angelou once said, "If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?". How incredibly true is this! I've often found myself thinking I wasn't good enough, wasn't pretty enough, wasn't thin enough, etc. It's negative self talk like this, that allowed me to fall into a downward spiral. It wasn't until a friend of mine told me that I allowed one person to effect me "way too much" that I realized I wasn't being good to myself. I was selling myself short. For too long I have cared about what everyone else wanted, what everyone else thought about me and what more could I do to make everyone else happy. I was putting my own happiness aside in an attempt to please those around me.
Letting go of the past and moving forward with my head held high, I'm writing my story from here on out for me. I'm excited to see where my future will take me. I'm hopeful that as I learn to let go of the things I cannot change that I will be blessed with many years of happiness, health and love. As I close this chapter in my life, I think it's important to know that just because it's been closed, doesn't mean it hasn't affected my life and helped to shape me into who I am. Here's to the future!
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Walk A Mile...
When I originally started this blog, it was to showcase my love for photography. I quickly learned that I needed an outlet for my emotions, to put my words on "paper" instead of keeping them bottled up so tightly inside. With all the pain and heartache that every month brings, comes a whole flood of emotions. Trying to find a way to "deal" with these emotions is a constant battle.
We've all heard the quote about walking a mile in someone else's shoes. It wasn't until recently that I came across a better version of it which read, "Before you accuse, criticize and abuse, walk a mile in my shoes.". If everyone could stop for a minute and think about this before doing any of those three things, the world would be a much happier place. Often times, we are all so quick to take someone's word about someone before getting to know that person for ourselves. When we do this, we are only robbing ourselves of the opportunity to get to know someone on our own terms without any preconceived notions. I admit, I've been guilty of this in the past. If a friend of mine didn't like someone, then that must have meant they were a bad person and in turn, I didn't like that person. If you would have asked me why, the only thing I had to go off of was what I had heard. When I ventured out, put the "He Said, She Said" crap aside and got to know some of these people, I came to find that I was definitely robbing myself of the joy of getting to know them.
I have recently found myself on the flip side of things. Apparently I am now the one that people are trying to break down. Being a person that always went out of my way to please everyone, I found this shocking and incredibly hurtful. I've always tried to live my life with honesty and integrity. As I've said before, I am far from perfect and have definitely had my mis-steps and have made my fair share of mistakes. However, each of these mistakes has helped to shape me into the person I am today and I continue to learn from these mistakes every day that I'm here on this earth.
We all need to remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our quirks, faults and bad habits, that is what makes us individuals. The next time someone is trying to sway your view on someone, stop for a minute and think about your experiences with that person...
We've all heard the quote about walking a mile in someone else's shoes. It wasn't until recently that I came across a better version of it which read, "Before you accuse, criticize and abuse, walk a mile in my shoes.". If everyone could stop for a minute and think about this before doing any of those three things, the world would be a much happier place. Often times, we are all so quick to take someone's word about someone before getting to know that person for ourselves. When we do this, we are only robbing ourselves of the opportunity to get to know someone on our own terms without any preconceived notions. I admit, I've been guilty of this in the past. If a friend of mine didn't like someone, then that must have meant they were a bad person and in turn, I didn't like that person. If you would have asked me why, the only thing I had to go off of was what I had heard. When I ventured out, put the "He Said, She Said" crap aside and got to know some of these people, I came to find that I was definitely robbing myself of the joy of getting to know them.
I have recently found myself on the flip side of things. Apparently I am now the one that people are trying to break down. Being a person that always went out of my way to please everyone, I found this shocking and incredibly hurtful. I've always tried to live my life with honesty and integrity. As I've said before, I am far from perfect and have definitely had my mis-steps and have made my fair share of mistakes. However, each of these mistakes has helped to shape me into the person I am today and I continue to learn from these mistakes every day that I'm here on this earth.
We all need to remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our quirks, faults and bad habits, that is what makes us individuals. The next time someone is trying to sway your view on someone, stop for a minute and think about your experiences with that person...
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